It’s different in the ADHD bedroom.
Great sex starts between the ears, not between the legs. But what if there’s an ADHD brain between the ears of one or more partners? Things can get a little, well, interesting.
Like when you get distracted and start thinking about what’s for dinner instead of what’s going on in bed (not so good for intimacy OR relationship). Or when you make a “love appointment” and forget about it until you notice your spouse has stopped speaking to you. Or when you blurt out the wrong thing at the wrong time. Or even the right thing at the wrong time. (sigh … it’s a problem).
You don’t do it on purpose.
ADHD isn’t a personal attack on your lover or your relationship, but it sure feels like it sometimes. Remember that adult ADHD means alternate focus and inattention, caution and impulsivity, excitement and calm. That up and down, back and forth inconsistency can make a mess of intimacy, both in and out of bed.