My husband Victor approached me last night with what I considered a sly grin.
“We’re going on a date Saturday night,” he announced. “We’re having dinner at a place we’ve never eaten before!”
“Where is it?” I asked innocently.
“It’s a SURPRISE!” he said triumphantly. “You just need to be ready at seven.”
I was instantly suspicious. A surprise? Hmmmm. I usually like surprises. But this feels a little too planned, a bit scary perhaps. Get dressed for dinner when I don’t know where we’re going? Shall I dress up? Wear jeans?
“Oh just wear anything,” Victor advised.
Yeah, right. That’s easy for him to say when he has only two choices – a long sleeved shirt and a pair of slacks. My closet is a little more complicated, made more so by the fact that I have gained weight in the last year and (oops) some of my favorite clothes are too snug.
I thought I liked surprises. I know I do. But I can feel my ‘control issues’ creeping in. What if I don’t like the food? How far away is it? Are we going to be alone or with other folks?
Oh heck, it will be fun! A new adventure! An ADDiva delight! Mostly, I am humbled and secretly thrilled that my husband of soon-to-be 21 years is still thinking outside the box to add some spice to our relationship. He knows my ADD loves New and Different. And he did some extra work to make it fun for me…for both of us.
I’m fortunate, I know, to have him. I almost wrote “lucky” to have him, but it’s not about luck. It’s about being on the same team — the secret to a successful ADHD relationship. Let’s talk more about this, shall we? Seems like a timely topic.